Thursday, 18 August 2016

What I have learned in life so far....

In life, you learn many lessons. You are faced with many bumps in the roads, I have had pretty big bumps in mine. Being isolated, alone, lied to, being told I am not good enough in many ways, yet being told that I have so much to offer by others. I have, and still believe that I am a somebody, and that I have something special to give in many ways, however, I never been given an opportunity, or a chance, or had certain people believe in me. I have given all that I have to people who could not see how much I was really giving them, or had people tell me that I am obsessed, when I am just being myself, a guy that cares a lot, maybe too much but that is just how I am, and I am happy to do so, yet others don't seem to understand. I learned that in the end, you may have yourself to be with and yourself to trust, because in the end, it is your life, you know who you are, and if no one sees, if no one understands you, then who cares about them. I know who I am, and accept who I am, but what if who you are, isn't accepted by the people around you, or seen?

Some people believe that you have to be in a relationship, that you have to get married and start a family, cause that is what life is about. Some people believe it so much, that even if things go so bad, they choose to " settle " and be in a relationship that they realize later on they hate, and feel uncomfortable, or even hate being in and choose to get a divorce. For some this happens over and over and over, choosing to settle over and over, having kids, and getting divorces, causing harm not only to themselves, but to their children. Sure, your goal in life could be to have a family, and a home, and all those things, but you do need to think about what you yourself need in the relationship, and take time to see how you feel about the person, and if you are just attracted to them, and not really in love with them. Some tend to marry for.... " other reasons" ( ;) ), because they desire attention so much, or physical attraction a little too much, that they later ruin their lives, and their relationships and so on. You need to remember that you are never EVER forced to be in a relationship of any kind, you are never forced to love someone, and if you feel like you are being forced, reach out to others before its too late, tell others whats going on before its too late. In the end, its your life, and you can choose to live your life alone and focus on being comfortable and happy with yourself, if others find that strange, that is their problem.

People may tell you that you are not good enough to do something, that you can't because you are not that type of person, or maybe because you don't have " it ", or maybe because you just don't have what it takes. Some people will always judge, or even prejudge you, meaning judging you way before even knowing you. I believe that every single person has it in them to make life the way they want to make it. We are all born with not knowing anything about life, and we learn by experiences and many other ways, build up a certain mindset about things. With that said, how can anyone tell you that you are not good enough, when everyone has it in them to do anything? You may just need to focus a bit more, put more effort into it, and you can make it happen, there for, you do, and always will have what it takes to make it happen. Never let others effect you. You know who you are, and what matters to you.

People may walk away, laugh at you, push you away, leave you, you may be left alone, not knowing at all what you have done, feeling confused and maybe in time not liking who you are because you feel like who you are is the reason people treat you the way you are, and you try so hard to be one of them to fit in. You should never try to fit in, if you are different, embrace it. Many people have made amazing successful lives by being different, by not fitting in, by creating things that some may have thought was stupid, yet making tons of money doing it, or being cheered for something they have done. My point is that you are special, everyone is special in their own way, if some people leave, that is their problem, not yours, they chose to do so they chose to be the way they are, you know who you are, don't let their actions effect who you know you are.

Never give in, never give up, and never settle, live life the way you want and the way you feel, and if you feel like you are being forced or pushed into being someone else, stop and think, and find ways to change that, because what matters the most, is what matters to you, and who you are deep down, not what they think is right, but what you know is right for you. ( might work more on this article later )